Don't get me wrong, I love my faith and the church... but I think it's a problem that girls feel so much pressure from friends or just others in the church, I guess an "underlying expectation," so to say that WE HAVE TO GET MARRIED AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. Honestly, for a church that takes marriage so seriously, there are an awful large number of us getting engaged, or even married after knowing each other and dating only a few months, sometimes even shorter. I just don't think two people can possibly know each other that well, enough to be married for eternity after a few months. I have a few friends now that are already divorced. It happens at different times for everyone, one person's path in life may not work for another.
I'm not even 23 yet and I often find myself thinking "IM NEVER GOING TO GET MARRIED." I'm realizing that is so messed up. I really REALLY wish this thought process or "idea", or hidden pressure would change! I get caught up in it too often, and it's ridiculous.
I honestly do not understand, and wish I did.. and maybe someone can help answer this... And remember, I know it works for some people.
WHY DO MORMONS GET ENGAGED SO FAST? AFTER KNOWING EACH OTHER ONLY A FEW MONTHS???? Seriously. I really don't understand.
3 comments:
That is tragic that you have friends that are already divorced. It's heart-breaking.
You're right, don't stress! I got married at 25 and am so glad that I had the chance to enjoy the single life for a while. I have plenty of friends that are in their thirties and not married yet. Marriage is great, but you have FOREVER to be married.
It's natural to stress about it (I definitely did). You'll be married before you know it and be so grateful for all the experiences you're having now. Good things come to those who wait!
We're looking forward to seeing you in a few weeks!
Sometimes it helps to get away for a while if you can. It's like being brainwashed. You get sucked into feeling pressured, or left behind, when really you're not. But when you're surrounded by it all the time, its impossible not to feel that way once in a while.
Amen to the previous comments Kait. You have eternity to be married... and only a fraction of time to be single. There are a lot of things I never did while I was single and will probably have to wait a long time to do while married... so take advantage of this time and really enjoy life... get to know yourself... make sure you have lived your life exactly as you want to so that when you get married you don't look back and wish! As you take this time to draw nearer to the Lord and to really come to recognize his voice in your life, he will prepare you for the things to come in your life!
Love you girl!
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